Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Zee TV’s PunarVivaah puts the spotlight on Remarriage



Remarriages are a reality. Traditions, customs, and the compromises associated with it even more so. ‘PunarVivaah’ has succeeded in bringing this reality to the doorsteps of households across the world. It has dragged our cushy minds into thinking aloud about a topic we conveniently ignore until we have to face it in our lives. There lies a hope that awareness would dispel ignorance and awaken a fire in us to right some wrongs committed in the name of traditions and society.

Couple of weeks ago, twitter was abuzz with discussions on remarriages prompted by the show ‘Punar Vivaah’ and its coverage on our Rangmunch Bay Area online Radio Segment in California. We had a counselor, Parijat on board giving her insights into remarriage. http://rangmunchtv.blogspot.in/2012/04/spp-rangmunch-bay-area-klok-1170-am.html

It is heartwarming to see that the show has compelled the official facebook page of PunarVivaah to take initiative to provide counseling and guidance through Punarvivaah helpline to those who need it. http://www.facebook.com/zeetvpunarvivaah

‘PunarVivaah’ introduced us to little known traditions that left us gasping, shocked and disgusted at the insensitivity involved. When we take a moment to ponder, we realize these customs are not figments of writer’s imagination but are as much a reality as the air we breathe. The fact that we do not see them and are not part of our everyday lives does not mean they don’t exist. The sad truth is that it is prevalent as much in an urban household as in villages.

* We first got a reality check when Yash’s mother Gayathriji proclaims a widow for their son is acceptable while a divorcee is not.

* We sat up and took notice when Gayathriji insisted that she shall accept Aarti but not her son, Ansh.

* The change of name from Aarti to Arpita as a replacement for Yash’s deceased wife left us aghast.

* Scindias’ insistence that Kanya Daan for “Nayi Arpita” be done by Arpita’s parents instead of the Dubeys, who have literally cared for Aarti as their own daughter, made us cringe at the insensitivity of it all.

Leave aside the fact that these are unpleasant truths that we may run from just by switching channels and moving on to another show, the fact remains this is as close to reality as it gets on television. If it is a bitter pill for us to swallow sitting comfortably in our drawing rooms, can you imagine the plight of people facing it across our country? In Indian remarriages, families and children if present, take centre stage to the couple. So be it. One can only hope that the difficult situation not be made worse in the name of society and customs.

“Someday, someone will come into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.”

‘PunarVivaah’ is a show that charts the journey of two individuals through remarriage and life’s challenges to bond as a couple and eventually as a family. From the looks of it, chances are that Aarti and Yash may connect as a family first before bonding as a couple and that is not rare in the case of remarriages.

7 weeks into the show, the couple has several barriers stacked against them and what makes it worse is that the non-communication between the two makes it more like a wall built between them that they need to first demolish before facing the various issues thrown at them.

How has ‘PunarVivaah’ impacted your outlook towards remarriage and the customs associated with it? Any advice to Yash and Aarti who have recently stepped into holy matrimony?


Neeraja Unni
Rangmunch.tv

7 comments:

  1. I agree with you more on ur thoughts neeru.... its really amazing when people who want to start life afresh are pulled back by their so called well wishers.... if its remarriage for your son its completely justified but when remarriage for daughter has to be met up with numerous conditions and has to go through so much scrutiny....
    --Sree

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  2. i think the show lacks depth and is aimed at getting trps by pulling at the heart strings through the depiction of outlandish situations some of which you have listed above. I agree re marriage is a touchy subject but whats shown in PV is too regressive and negative. A bit more positivity and less saas bahu focus and more focus on the couple would have been more interesting. The travels of a widowed mom is so much better handled in Colors show Na bole tum. There too you have an over critical MIL and a jealous SIL but the characters are well fleshed out and dealt with humour. Plus the bond between nanhi and mohan and now megha and mohan has been built up gradually and beautifully. Yash and arti just dont touch your heart as much. the kids too havent been used well. The aim seems not to be on the couple and their reservations/issues but more on society and its issues. I agree that too is imp but the treatment in PV is just tiresome. Also, the leads arent gelling. They seem to be out of sorts. Gurmeet keeps giving his ramayan v vacant looks and kritika is always frowning. lets see how the story unfolds in the coming episodes. hope it improves.

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    1. Totally agree wid you. Could not have been expressed better. I hope people do not start getting scared of remarriages after watching Punar Vivaah..

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    2. I completely agree... In past few episodes it became more of song & drama kind of show. The execution is pretty bad. I agree they are touching upon serious issues but why can't they make it some realistic. Now it seems more a pomp show. Though they are trying to show a strong heroine but her flying duppatta & fainting part is completely unrealistic. If she hates her first husband & doesn't trust him then why did she went to meet him just before marriage & tried to plead to him to take her back in his life. Does she have some dignity? The competitor show on the same time slot is doing much better & the execution of things is far better. The kids are not used as show-pieces. The FIL & MIL don't throw tantrums & their concerns are genuine.

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  3. A nice article which focuses on the different tribulations and problems of a remarriage.Both the actors with their varied characterizations are doing a good job and the show coves lots of problems in a small town scenario where the society along family issues hold lot of significance.

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  4. punar vivah is very nice show ......after seenng punar vivah log dosri shadi krty hoye drain gy nai the best show...
    after geet punar vivah is my fevurite show
    top of the list.....

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  5. AFTER GHSP I LIKE PV, COZE UNIQE STORY GO WITH UNIQE KING OF TELLYWOOD ACTOR GURU

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